Navigating 2020

Hi y’all, I guess it’s been quite a while since I’ve posted anything! What a weird year we’re living in.  To say it has come as a shock to the system, is an understatement.  After many months of navigating, over-dissecting things with every vendor under the sun, and lots and lots of wine, we’re feeling a little more at peace with things.

Here is some great advice and words from our guest blog today, MILK Books.  Take a look and let us know how you’re handling things too!

What Every Couple Ought to Know About Planning A Wedding During This Crisis
No one expected the world to come to a standstill. Most of everyone’s lives are on pause, commitments postponed, and scheduled events cancelled; most probably including your wedding. 

And it might be difficult to find a reason to celebrate during a pandemic, but it should not stop you and your partner from finally beginning this journey in life together.

These times are uncertain, and every decision we make can be easily changed tomorrow. Organizing a wedding is already exhausting and quite expensive. It’s even more so if you have to do it on the premise of a Coronavirus-free setting. Treading these unprecedented waters might be intimidating, but that’s why we’re here to help. Here are some of the things you ought to know about when making important wedding decisions during this crisis.

Tedious Consultations

More than ever, couples need to be consistently talking with the people involved in organizing the wedding, most especially the vendors. Regular updates on vital information is necessary to keep the flow of information going in these uncertain times. That is why planning a wedding during this crisis can become a tedious process due to the many unknown factors in the future.

(Virtual) conversations with your vendors frequently also entails that you have to sit down and discuss all your options and fallbacks if in any case something goes wrong. Make it a point that every decision made has a backup plan for when things don’t go as expected. You have to check for the availability of your resources, schedule availability and whether they are still open for business in the future.

For instance, if you suddenly need to postpone your wedding once more, make sure your agreed flora with your florist is in season for the postponed date. Also check in on your photographer or videographer’s availability on the newly set date. Most importantly, secure the availability of your wedding venue both for the ceremony and the reception.

Other than that, do not forget to also consult with your invited family and guests. They are involved in the planning process as much as you are since rescheduling a huge event like your wedding and bringing forth such uncertainty in their timeline will not guarantee their presence in your special day.

Financially Challenging

Regardless of our financial capabilities, no one would want to spend a lot more than their original budget. Organizing a wedding in itself is an extremely costly event with no return of investment. Especially now with COVID-19, a lot of suppliers will charge extra fees to have some sort of security in venturing into this commitment with you while there is still a great unknown.

That is why it is necessary to sit down and discuss your terms and mutual obligations with all of your vendors once more. This part is absolutely central to making sure that you are aware of where your money goes during this wedding planning journey. There are cases of couples who have had to pay for wedding postponement or cancellation fees due to the pandemic which they were not previously informed about. 

However, these fees are completely understandable since it is highly likely that your initial fees were already used up in preparation for your wedding. But that is with the assumption that there isn’t going to be a pandemic which is just not the case at present. So do make sure that you are versed with your contracts, clarify the complicated and gray areas, and clear off any misunderstandings and false assumptions.

High-Risk Commitment

The huge difference between planning a wedding before versus planning amidst a pandemic now, is the very high risk. Nothing is definite at present and having to conduct such a costly event with a high risk of it not happening can cause you to lose money and your months or years of hard work. 

At the same time, multiple postponements of your wedding is impractical and wasteful. There is an acceptable time of prolonging such an event and at such time, you have to put your feet down and decide whether to just cancel, to keep on postponing or to finally give the green light.

If you decide to do the last, there are various ways of organizing a Coronavirus-free wedding. The first factor you need to be reconsidering is your guest list. In some places, any type of gathering is not even allowed while some others are a little bit more lax. That is why it’s important to be updated with your area’s quarantine or lockdown guidelines, too.

With that in mind, couples have been getting more and more creative and resourceful just to finally be able to celebrate their special day. This could also be an opportunity for you to follow the unconventional path and go with the flow of the times. Some couples decided to simply host their wedding ceremony in their backyard, while some opted to broadcast their ceremony via video conferencing so that their family and guests wouldn’t miss out.

You could also take some of the tasks off of your vendors by using this downtime wisely and slowly working your way through the grunt of the work of your wedding planning. You can test out your creativity by crafting your wedding invitations and have your partner contribute as well. If you have an eye for photography, maybe have your take of what you want your wedding photos to look like. 

For starters, you can try a quarantine-themed wedding photoshoot to make sure that it’s safe and at the same time, you get to be creative and resourceful. Afterwards, you can try having it printed with a beautifully crafted photo book as your memory keepsake.

By the end of the day, whatever you decide, the fact that you are getting married amidst this crisis makes your wedding so much more memorable than others because despite the circumstances, you powered through the pandemic, said your vows, and began this journey into the unknown together.