Rejection: it stings, it hurts, it is painful, it is an inevitable part of life. And it is also an inevitable part of wedding planning.
It is obviously our hope that you fall in love with every piece of your wedding the first time you see it. Your venue, the date, the vendors, and of course the dress! But the reality is, that doesn’t usually happen. The venue may not have the right atmosphere, the catering might not be in your budget, the invitations just not the right shade of purple. Heck, you might not just mesh with the wedding planner you had coffee with.
And guess what? All of that is okay! We here at CLD ultimately want you to have the best vendors that work together to produce your perfect wedding. You are taking a good deal of time and spending some money to create a stellar event, and you will need to try quite a few things until you find, “the one.” Try, try, try away!
But we have a huge favor to ask of you. After you find all the perfect pieces to your wedding puzzle, you have to properly reject the ones that did not fit. Anyone that took some time to chat with you, meet with you, or provided you something, deserves to know that you are moving on. This is not only out of politeness (although we do love proper etiquette), but for practical reasons too, as there is a couple out there who will want that New Kids on the Block cover band on that one specific date. Just think of how annoying it is for you when you send an email and don’t hear back. It’s rude! We understand it can be awkward, but how many times did you have to deal with that as a teenager? This should be a piece of cake.
There is no need for drama or fanfare. Just a simple email or phone call will do. Tell the vendor you appreciated their time, but you have decided to go in a different direction. The point is, you don’t just ignore their emails or calls and never get back to them. If you have a planner, you can ask them to kindly send this email on your behalf. Feel free to elaborate if you’d like, ‘this doesn’t fit our budget (read: they still may be willing to work with you on this, so ask!), or ‘we are going for a different style’, whatever! It is at your discretion to provide details, and if you just didn’t like the person, feel free to leave it at ‘we are going in a different direction’. Done.
FYI: we know we are not a perfect fit for every client! Yes, the rejection stings a little, even for us. We wish we could work with every single couple we meet, but sometimes things do not work out. But simply letting vendors know will allow everyone to move on and focus on creating someone else’s dream wedding!